這兩天看Nick 和Kanae 的書(我未試過看英文書咁快，不到兩晚已看了66%)，講述由認識、追求、拍拖、求婚、結婚、生仔的經歷。看似乎簡單甜蜜，事實是很多意外－Nick ＆ Kanae 的「月老」最初弄錯對象牽錯線；Nick ＆ Kanae 互有好感後又各自等待了幾個月；由朋友開始，溝通需要越過文化差異；拍拖和求婚前，需要問自己和對方很多問題；結婚 3個月有BB完全是意外；婚姻生活會引發潛藏的不安全感... 這本書不是romantic style，而是很實用的戀愛婚姻書。就像投資人詳細拆解交易背後的reasoning, 市場改變和風險，做決定的思維，如何調整策略等。不再單講理論，或天真地以為「愛能解決一切問題 」。這書是十分實用的戀愛＆婚姻相處書。
也許看了Nick 的書，又看了王祖藍和李亞男花幾年等待的故事，聽見女生極速戀愛，感到與「找個認真的人」想法不一致，於是問了很多問題，例如必備特質＆條件、觀察期如何界定對方認真與否... 女生不太高興。事後，男友人說我不懂看人眉頭眼額。
我想戀愛和投資相似之處：「財不入急門」，正如尋找真愛需要時間急不來。雖然我和女生不相熟，但畢竟是小時候認識的人，我真心抱著善意，希望她能遇到人生伴侶。
減磅進度ok，但我嫌不夠快。表姐L 說慢慢降比較持久。營養師 J要求這星期有一晚只吃蔬菜和水果，另外連續兩日只吃自製三文治。 這是為了更準確量度現值卡路里餐單成效，以便未來調整餐單份量。
繼續share 《Love Without Limits》書中的quotes：
"I caution you not to get engaged "because it seems the right thing to do" or because "the timing is right. Marriage is a long-term commitment. You should only step into that commitment if you truly love the person and want to spend your life with her."
"In a true loving relationship, you should take the time to know and understand each other before having sex."
"True happiness is generated from within"
"(In a marriage) You grant each other acceptance."
"Being right isn't nearly as important as being together."
"You can't take each other for granted. You have to show your love and appreciation not just with flowers and greeting cards on your anniversary, birthday, and Valentine's Day, but every day through your actions."
"After we are married and conflict occurs, we may overreact or lash out based not on what is happening in the marriage necessarily but on past hurt from previous relationships that have left us feeling vulnerable."
"Even when Kanae and I are alone together, it's often difficult for me to turn off my work thoughts and focus instead on my wife and our relationship."
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